Using NLP and Self-Hypnosis for Habit Change (Part 2)

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Welcombe to Part 2 of Using NLP and Self-Hypnosis for Habit Change. I hope you enjoyed part 1.

Having decided you really want change you have taken the essential step towards it.
What attitude and behaviour would you like instead of the old habit?

It is not enough just to not want the habit; you need to develop a new positive way of behaving that meets all the needs of the old habit.

Would the ability to simply relax and smile at the old behaviour be a good thing? Would the ability to notice its pull and be able to laugh and dismiss it be a good as well?

I will assume it as a good outcome to find yourself disinterested and bored by the old habit so that eventually you forget about it completely.

This is the part where change occurs. Find somewhere where you can safely relax. Close your eyes and focus on the flow of your breath letting thoughts come and go but remaining focused on you breath as you gently scan down your body relaxing all your muscles from your head to your toes. While you are very relaxed and comfortable you are going to use your memory and imagination to change your habit.

Make a living picture in your mind of all the negative things you feel about the habit, its unattractiveness, its unnecessary risks, its silliness and its waist of time and money and all the times of acute embarrassment you might have felt about it. Make the picture/feeling as strong and as uncomfortable as possible. Now say something to yourself like" no more" "enough" never again" some expression that lets you know with certainty that you are about to change that old redundant habit for a better way of behaving not because you feel guilty in some way but because you want the freedom to choose. You choose to be free.

Relax inside with your focus on your breath and begin to build a better picture in your mind. How you want to be, how you want to behave and all the associated feelings of freedom and achievement you feel by being free of that old limiting behaviour.

Begin to smile inside and out as you push the old picture and habit away while you step inside the new picture of you freedom with all its associated good feelings, really live it through your own eyes and ears experience the freedom fully and with pleasure allowing yourself the chance to step into freedom. Set a word, a picture or a physical feeling to the picture/idea and use its power whenever that old pattern shows up keep practising this simple skill and very soon you will be completely free of that old habit.

Matthew A. Ferguson SQHP (Clinical hypnotherapist, Trainer of Hypnotherapy and NLP, Stress Consultant and Motivation Coach) – author of The Motivation Method to Stress Management with Positive Motivation. Matthew runs a training school based in Scotland teaching Hypnotherapy, NLP and Coaching to learn more visit http://www.motivationtraining.co.uk/.

Love Tarot: Using the Tarot to find Love

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Without doubt, the most common inquiry during a Tarot reading is about love. It often seems as though true love is something that is outside of one’s self, that it is an external force or act of fate that we have little control of. In truth, finding love begins within our own selves. Love is a genesis that manifests within our own inner beings. A happy and successful relationship starts with our selves.

The best relationships are those in which both partners have discovered who they are. When one develops a strong sense of self, their partnerships are more likely to flourish. With self-awareness and self-knowledge one is more capable of expressing their feelings and setting appropriate boundaries. They can recognize their own needs and the needs of their partners. More importantly, for someone that is single, they can recognize the traits in a potential partner that will work or won’t work.

When an individual consults the Tarot about love matters, most tarot readers and psychics tend to focus directly on the current energy of someone’s love life. They often fail to recognize the influence of someone’s own belief systems or behavioral patters. During a Tarot reading, it’s really up to the individual to ask the tarot reader or psychic to explore the topic of one’s own level of self-development and how this might be influencing their love life. A good psychic tarot reader can pick up on this immediately. Questions of love should shift focus. Instead of asking, when will I find love? Try exploring the areas that are blocking you from finding love. Here are some questions that can be quite useful during a love tarot reading.

1. Where are the areas that I need to grow in order to find love?
2. What is preventing me from finding love?
3. What do I need to learn about myself that will enable me to meet a partner?
4. What are my behavioral patterns that are influencing my love life?
5. What are my beliefs about love?
6. What areas do I need to change about myself?
7. Where am I failing to express myself?
8. What do I need to do to open myself up to love?

The more you learn about yourself, the more likely you are to meet the perfect love match. It’s important to remember that when one utilizes the Tarot for love, the Tarot serves as an oracle. Tarot reading is a tool for self-development and growth. In truth, the Tarot is a tool that is available to anyone who wishes to explore their own, inner workings. It is an incredibly effective method for delving into the deeper areas of our own selves that affect our current relationships. Tarot readings never fail to disclose the secrets of ourselves that remain out of sight.

Tarot reading serves as a guide. They are mirrors that reflect our own truths back to us. In love matters, the Tarot can lead us towards the manifestation of our goals and dreams. They reveal our vulnerabilities and the areas that prevent us from thriving. In love, the Tarot can discover what influences us and highlights situations that we may have been unaware of. Most importantly, the tarot offers us a new sense of awareness of who we are. In the end, Tarot reading can open us to love.

To learn more about tarot card meanings and symbolism, please visit Carolyn’s free tarot guide.

Carolyn Naiman is a professional Tarot reader and the Webmaster of http://tarotreadingpsychic.com/ She has a Masters in Psychology and has been a Tarot advisor since 1998. For more on free tarot readings, please go to her website.